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Pet Peeve #84

I tend to dislike parents who pierce their infant's ears.

Explain to me why they can't allow their child to have some say-so over his, or, in most cases, her, body? Maybe he or she doesn't want pierced ears. What on earth would it hurt to wait until the child is old enough to make an autonomous decision? Even if the individual opts to let them heal over, there's still scar tissue there that didn't have to exist.

Outside of the ethical issues, why open your child up to the possibility of contact dermatitis, keloid formation, or possibly swallowing the earring? Don't babies have enough stuff to get through already? And I've read that infants have greater risk because their immune systems aren't fully developed yet.

I'm aware of the Hindu tradition on this, but on this one, I think practicality and the well-being of the child should take precedence over religious belief. Just because an action is steeped in tradition does not make it a just action. Sometimes tradition needs a swift kick in the butt with the boot of informed consent.

I say this as someone who made the conscious decision to get her ears pierced at around age 14 or so. The other immediate female members of my family do not have pierced ears. I think my mother was very wise to make me wait.

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goodjoan
Oct. 13th, 2005 11:58 am (UTC)
I got my ears pierced when I was 8. My sisters had to beg and my mom did them at home with a sewing needle and a cork and some ice. When I casually asked about it, standing outside a jewelry store that had free ear piercing, my dad saw his opportunity to NOT be a part of the horror, and he insisted my mom take me inside and let me do it! I was a little shocked that they didn't out up more resistance!

In any case, I wouldn't do anything to my kids bodies (short of medically necessary, obviously) that they couldn't 'un-do' if they wanted. So, skirting
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I got my ears pierced when I was 8. My sisters had to beg and my mom did them at home with a sewing needle and a cork and some ice. When I casually asked about it, standing outside a jewelry store that had free ear piercing, my dad saw his opportunity to NOT be a part of the horror, and he insisted my mom take me inside and let me do it! I was a little shocked that they didn't out up more resistance!

In any case, I wouldn't do anything to my kids bodies (short of medically necessary, obviously) that they couldn't 'un-do' if they wanted. So, skirting <ljuser=mumpish>'s question, with the exception of a couple of tonsils and adenoids, my kids still have all the parts god gave them! I figure god put them there for a reason, who am I to go lopping them off or putting holes in them? If they want to do it when they are older, more power to them, but it's their choice!
pointedview
Oct. 13th, 2005 09:38 pm (UTC)
Agreed on all counts. Your mom must have been fairly brave to take that on, especially if she'd never done it before!
goodjoan
Oct. 13th, 2005 10:38 pm (UTC)
Well, let's take a moment to reflect on the fact that my mother was an alcoholic, so her idea of a grand parenting moment may have been a bit flawed!

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